The Love.Heal.Thrive. Podcast

What is your silence telling you?

In this episode, Erin Garay explores the concept of silence and its impact on our lives. She discusses toxic silence, nourishing silence, preparation silence, silence as an answer, nd meditation silence. Each type of silence is examined from an energetic and emotional perspective, offering insights into how we can use silence as a tool for self-care and mindful leadership.
 
Links:
I would love to come and speak for your next event! Learn more HERE.
 
Learn more about the counter chakra in my book, Establishing Equilibrium
Podcast on Life Stances
Flipping your lid video by Dan Siegel
Witness Consciousness podcast
Erin Garay YouTube Meditations
Counter Chakra Throat/Sacral chakra partnership: 
 
Takeaways
Silence can be used as a powerful tool for self-care and mindful leadership.
Toxic silence, nourishing silence, preparation silence, silence as an answer, and meditation silence each have unique energetic and emotional impacts.
Understanding the different types of silence can help us navigate relationships and emotional triggers more effectively.
Silence awareness can help us attract a more abundant and loving life by using silence as a tool for self-reflection and emotional balance.
 
 
Keywords silence, toxic silence, nourishing silence, preparation silence, silence as an answer, meditation silence, self-care, mindful leadership, emotional perspective, energetic balance
 

How can the enneagram life stances bring you more joy?

Do you want to feel more true joy in your life?
Do you want to experience happiness that no one can take away? 
 
Learn how to achieve this through mastering your life stances. 
 
In this episode, Erin introduces the Enneagram and discusses the three life stances within the Enneagram: assertive, compliant, and withdrawal. She explains how understanding and balancing these stances can help us find more joy in our lives. Erin shares personal examples and offers practical tips for incorporating each stance. She also emphasizes the importance of recognizing the patterns in our relationships and working together to overcome them. The episode concludes with a call to examine our own stances and find our balance in the middle of these stances- our true point of power where we become untriggerable. 
 
I would love to bring the wisdom of the enneagram to you! 
Learn more here! 
 
Speaking
Coaching
 
Links: 
Free Enneagram Test- Learn your number here.
Ram Dass Article- The Triangle of Relationships
 
Keywords: Enneagram, life stances, assertive, compliant, withdrawal, joy, balance, patterns, relationships
 
Takeaways
Understanding the Enneagram and its three life stances (assertive, compliant, withdrawal) can help us find more joy in our lives.
Balancing these stances is key to emotional equanimity and healthier relationships.
Recognizing the patterns in our relationships and working together to overcome them can lead to stronger connections.
Incorporating aspects of the stances we are less strong in can help us find a more balanced and untriggerable state.
 

How can the word AND begin to change your life?

In this episode, host Erin Garay explores the power of the word 'and' and how it can transform our lives. She discusses the importance of embracing all of our emotions and not limiting ourselves to one label. Erin also emphasizes the need for acceptance and understanding, both for ourselves and others. She encourages listeners to use the word 'and' to create connection, acceptance, and authenticity in their lives. Additionally, Erin explores the concept of balancing our nine-to-five jobs with our passions and finding joy in both. She concludes by discussing the shadow side of 'and' and the importance of prioritizing our goals and finding peace in our daily activities.
 
Links:
I would love to speak at your next event! Learn more HERE.
Purchase your copy of Establishing Equilibrium here. 
Learn more about 1 to 1 coaching HERE. 
Emotion Chart
Episode 69: How can you get a  handle on your feelings?
Dolly Parton's 5 to 9
Josh Shipp: What's your tiger? 
 
Takeaways
Embrace all of your emotions and avoid limiting yourself to one label.
Use the word 'and' to create connection, acceptance, and authenticity in your life.
Find joy in both your nine-to-five job and your passions.
Prioritize your goals and find peace in your daily activities.
Keywords: emotions, acceptance, connection, authenticity, balance, goals, peace

Become Untriggerable: Mom Edition

Family triggers are real but you can rise above them!
Join me for today's podcast and uncover actionable strategies and effective mindset shifts to reclaim your peace. Get ready to experience a whole new level of calm and understanding. 
In this episode, host Erin Garay discusses how to become untriggerable in relation to your mother. She emphasizes the importance of the relationship with yourself and not allowing others to disrupt your inner peace. Erin also explores the concept of contrast and how it can help clarify what you truly want. Lastly, she reminds listeners that difficult moments will pass and encourages them to find gratitude in every experience.
 
Links:
1 to1 coaching with Erin 
Establishing Equilibrium
Between Death and Life
Milkshake Blog
Abraham-Hicks Talk on Mothers
Legs up the wall
 
Takeaways
The most important relationship is the one between you and yourself
Contrast helps clarify what you truly want
Difficult moments will pass, so find gratitude in every experience

What is your 6th sense and how do you strengthen it?

Our intuition is in direct correlation with our chakra health. As our energetic system is dynamic and flowing, our intuition becomes even more accurate. If we have stagnant energy from emotions that are unhealed  blocking our energy, the correlating intuitive sense will also be stagnant within the chakra as well as within the correlating auric layer. As you heal and balance your chakra system, your intuition will become clearer. 
Takeaways
The sixth sense is our intuition, and it can be strengthened through balancing and healing the chakra system.
Each chakra is associated with an age range and a sense, both physically and intuitively.
Journaling, meditating, and clearing the chakras can help enhance intuition and strengthen the sixth sense.
Trusting and following our intuition can lead to guidance and a more peaceful and joyful life.
Links:
Purchase Establishing Equilibrium Here 
Join the Love.Heal.Thrive. Newsletter Here
All- Chakra Meditation: 
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Transcript:
Welcome to the Love Heal Thrive podcast where you learn to love yourself enough to heal and heal yourself enough to thrive. I'm your host, Erin Garay. I am a Reiki master hypnotherapist, certified Enneagram and meditation coach, and simply someone who has experienced energy patterns her whole entire life. And it's been hard, but I have learned it doesn't have to be.
Each week I will teach you tools and techniques from my own journey, as well as bring in amazing guests so that we can help shift your energy sensitivity into your superpower. I'm so happy you're here. Let's get started. Welcome. I'm so happy you are here. Today we are diving into the question, what is your sixth sense and how do you strengthen it?
This is one of my favorite topics because I think it is so, so important. And I think it is really important to understand how this whole system works and what you can do to not only balance your energy, but also increase your intuition. And then life not only gets easier, it gets fun. We stress less, we worry less because we feel guided and we embody and experience this peace that is indescribable. And that's the feeling I want you to enjoy every single day that you're being guided. And all you have to do is learn what your signs are telling you because I can tell you they are telling you.
It is just like learning a new language. I have always been energy sensitive, but when I was a little girl, there was this period of time where I had this premonition that someone was going to break into our home. And this is throwback that I had this premonition they were going to break into steal our VCR. Yup. Age flex anyway. So, but it was specific.
to the VCR, which was located in our living room. So for three days, and I actually felt it getting closer and closer and closer. For three days, when my parents would open the door, I would quickly gaze at the VCR clock to see that the time was still registering there. It was the most bizarre thing. I mean, now I look back and I realize it was not so bizarre, but.
Then I just knew I had to check for the time. So day one, I checked the time was there. I checked on day two, the time was there. Day three, I checked and the time was there. Day four, I fortunately had been invited to go play at a friend's house after school.
 My parents picked me up after work and then we went home and when they opened up the door, I immediately looked to the clock and it was gone. The VCR had been gone and it turns out that the person had come through my bedroom window because it had been the easiest window to open up and move through.
And I've thought about this window of time in my life so often, this premonition that I had, what, what was it that I experienced for me to know that this was going to happen? And it was in three days time. I remember this specifically, it was on the fourth day.
But was it that I saw him watching our patterns? Did I smell his lingering cologne that perhaps he had walked around the house? 
What about that sixth sense? What created that circumstance within my system to know this was going to happen? And I was too young to really understand what was happening nor to say anything to my parents. And what would have changed? Maybe we would have battened down the hatches, maybe a little bit more. I don't know. We did ultimately put a stick in my window, which made it ultimately more safe and secure.
But what messages, what three day messages have you been receiving that you're not listening to? Where in your life can you begin to adhere and pay attention and respond to the intuitive guidance that you are receiving?
to make life easier, more plentiful.
And this is not fear -based. I don't want you to lean into your fears. Because I actually was never, I never felt afraid in that moment. I just knew it was going to happen. It's a subtle difference, but really I wasn't afraid. I just knew it was going to happen. So perhaps if I told my parents in that moment, again, we could have secured the home in the way that we secured it after the fact. And maybe that would have never happened.
But again, I was too young at the time to think about that, but you aren't where in your three day awareness can you begin to make shifts and changes? And the difference between divine guidance and other guidance is it should feel peaceful. This is not a fear mongering, where all the troubleshooting ways I can improve my life. That is not it at all. As we are going to talk today, you are going to receive distinct signs that are specific to you.
that's guiding you and directing you to your most peaceful, to your most peaceful, happy life.
What is your sixth sense and how can you strengthen it? Our third eye chakra houses our sixth sense. You see each one of our chakras feeds one of our senses which ultimately presents as an intuitive sense.
Our root chakra feeds our sense of smell. Our sacral chakra feeds our sense of taste. Our solar plexus chakra feeds our sense of sight. Our heart chakra feeds our sense of touch. Our throat chakra feeds our sense of hearing. And our third eye is the culmination of all five of those senses. Our third eye is the summation of all of those chakras here within this space integrating, offering you divine guidance.
If you experienced trauma as a child, it could be that you were intuitively using all of these senses and not even recognizing it. Everything was heightened. Everything was sensory. These high, the high sensory child is an energetically sensitive child. When we have trauma, we need our sense of smell, our sense of taste, our sense of sight to know whether or not a room is safe to go into.
whether a person is safe to be.
our intuition tells us and guides us to keep us safe, to offer us the happiest and best life.
And each one of these chakras then ultimately make up one of the seven layers of our aura. So our root chakra is closest to our body, our sacral chakra layers on top of that, our solar plexus on top of that, our heart, our throat, our third eye and crown chakra, creating the seven layer electromagnetic field around us.
that is also this integration of our senses. So not only is it reading energy, it's also an indicator of our senses. So as someone approaches us from afar, It begins in the collective conscious where everything is all together. And then we have an intuitive knowing is this person good or bad? And then we hear them and then we touch them and then we see them and then we taste them and we may not taste them directly, but we get a taste in our mouth. We may, this may be the moment when we grab water or mints or gum and then we smell.
So it is in this same auric layer that this intuition gathers data, gathers data for you and your environment and the people within it that guide you and direct you. So our intuition is heightened when our chakras are balanced.
In the same way that you experienced balanced in the same way that you experienced seven main balanced chakras, you also have access to all seven intuitive ways of guidance. This drives me so crazy when people label and limit themselves. Oh, I'm clairaudient. I'm clairvoyant. No, we have access to all seven senses intuitively.
in that same way. However, as we look to the chakra system as the base of our intuition, we can look to see which energy centers are stagnant and which energy centers are flowing. And that flows much like our lungs would breathe in and out.
The energy within our chakra system breathes in and out into our auric field. It breathes in and out. But what do you think might happen to that layer of your aura and intuition data gathering if that chakra is stagnant? Yes. In the same way that the energy is stagnant here within your
internal system, it becomes stagnant in our interpretation within the orc field. This is how we get this misinterpretation of situations or people that you know have that misinterpretation. It is stagnant energy creating this misinterpretation. It also misinterprets our intuition or limits our intuition.
 I want you to notice, do you have a limitation on that sense in physical body or do you have a limitation in intuitive sense here? What I want you to do is begin to open up to the idea that maybe we just need to do some journaling, some meditating, some healing on that energy center so that we can bring that sense to life, both physically and intuitively. So our root chakra influences the ages of zero to seven, and it is our sense of smell. In intuitive terms, this is clairalience.
Our sacral chakra influences the ages of seven to 14 and it is our sense of taste in the Claire's it's Clairegustance.
Our solar plexus influences our ages of 14 to 21. It is our sense of sight, which is clairvoyance. Our heart chakra influences the ages between 21 and 28 is our sense of touch.
Our heart chakra influences the ages between 21 and 28 and it is our sense of touch, which is clear tangency. This is when you can touch something and read it like psychometry. The art of this is psychometry.
Our throat chakra is influenced by the ages of 28. Our throat chakra is influenced by the ages of 28 to 35. It is where we hear it is our clear audience.
And our third eye has been open since we were born. It's only when people tell us to stop paying attention to it, does it close and then we have to reopen it. This is our clear cognizance. This is our knowing. This is the integration of all of these senses that create this knowing that offers you this peace and guidance that life becomes safe and fun and joyous because you know that you're being guided and blessed.
every moment along the way.
We are gonna dive into this so much more in just a moment. I'm gonna take a quick break to share some wonderful news. Clearing.
We are going to dive into this so much in just a moment, right after this quick break. Clearing.
Once our chakras are balanced and flowing, we have equal access to our energy centers as well as our intuition. My book, Establishing Equilibrium takes you on this powerful healing journey that teaches you how to balance each one of your energy centers along with diagnosing your own body using the counter chakra system. This is such a powerful way to balance your energy system and tap into your intuition.  I would love to walk with you on this journey if you're interested. click the link down below. Now, back to our show.
So during the pandemic, remember there was this period of time where we were led to believe that we couldn't carry purses and it was unsafe to put anything down on the counters if you're going to the store. So I was in the midst of closing my brick and mortar center, my healing center, Love Heal Thrive, to go to close that so that I could go worldwide.
During the pandemic, there was a period of time where we were led to believe that we weren't supposed to carry purses around. And so I had my wallet, my phone and my keys everywhere that I went. And during this particular window of time, I was closing Love Heal Thrive Brick and Mortar in order to go worldwide. So I'm so happy that I did that because now I'm reaching so many more people.
than those just in my local town. However, during this time period, this was really sad. I was very sad to close this local space, but knew that my intuition was guiding me and directing me. And so there was this one day where I had my keys and wallet and phone in hand, but I also had all of these boxes that I was carrying out of the center to take to my car.
And so I didn't see where I was walking and I missed the curb. So as you may surmise, I missed the curb and just fell everywhere. Everything went everywhere. And I was sad on top of sad because now I was closing my space and now there was just things everywhere all over the street. So I gathered all my things, put them back in the boxes.
but I couldn't find my keys. And in that very same moment when I recognized and realized I didn't have my keys, there had been a UPS truck parked just to the left of me that drove off. And I am telling you in that moment, I knew my keys were in that truck and I knew that it didn't make sense, but I knew I got the intuitive hit. My keys were in that truck. And I was like, wait, I literally said, wait, wait.
My keys are in there and I did not understand how that could even be possible, but I knew that it was. So I did the human thing and I looked around everywhere on the ground for them in bushes. I called my husband, had him bring my extra keys down. He started looking, but I knew I kept saying, my keys are in that truck. My keys are in that truck. And so I had this moment, probably an hour later.
where I closed my eyes and I sat on the corner, or I stood on the corner and I said, universe, I know my keys are in that truck. How are you gonna bring that truck to me? And I am telling you, I'm not even making this up. I am not even kidding. I opened my eyes and the truck was making a left -hand turn right in front of me down the street. So I screamed and said, I'm getting in the car. I'm gonna go chase the truck like this crazy woman, I jumped in the car and started chasing down this UPS truck. But this is how certain I was about my intuition. And this is how certain I want you to feel about your intuition. I want you to be so clear and so trusting and so knowing that you are willing to get in the truck and chase down the UPS truck or whatever version of that exists in your life.
This is the certainty that I want for you. So I followed the truck and when he parked, and when he parked, I got out and was so nice. And I said, hi, I was just over on this particular street and I fell. And I think that my keys are in your truck. And if you look at UPS trucks, you will notice that in the front bumper,
There was actually a hole in the front bumper and just inside the hole there is literally this little ledge, a perfect stage for my key reveal. And the gentleman bent down, literally put his hand in the hole, grabbed my keys and handed them to me. I kid you not. It was so incredible. And he said, yeah, well, look, you're right. Here they are.
It was amazing. So I drove back and I showed my husband, he couldn't believe it. And I, I could, I knew they were there. My intuition was so clear. I knew they were there. How can you get this clear on your intuition? Will you begin by balancing these energy centers and healing the energy centers that are stagnant? Again, let's review that list one more time. Our root chakra.
is zero to seven and the sense of smell. Sacral chakra seven to fourteen, sense of taste. Solar plexus, sense of sight fourteen to twenty one. Our heart ages twenty one to twenty eight, our sense of touch. Our throat chakra influenced by the ages of twenty eight to thirty five and it's our sense of hearing.
And then our third eye is the culmination of all of those senses. Where can you journal? Where can you hear? Where can you meditate on one of those senses and age ranges that can help you begin to have more accurate sense and more accurate sensing? This is why intuitive guidance is called sensing.
How can you heal and balance your energy centers to strengthen your sixth sense?
Begin by journaling and meditating on these. And I'm going to include a link down below to an incredible meditation that I created that takes you through this chakra clearing process. So essentially you ground your energy always, and then you invite in this divine healer with a divine vacuum and you vacuum out.
the root chakra and then you spin that energy center clockwise so that you then have a ruby red ascent. You begin by grounding your energy down into the center of the earth with mama earth's permission and then you draw up this beautiful earth energy here and then you invite this divine guide, whatever that is for you with this divine vacuum and we vacuum out.
All the debris and black energy that might be there, this stagnant energy that represents in the third eye is black. It's not necessarily black energy. It's just, it, it shows up visually within the third eye as black energy, but it's just stagnant energy stories that we've told ourselves that it's emotional stagnation. So we vacuum the root chakra back and forth, and then we spin the root chakra.
clockwise to be this beautiful red ruby energy flowing out and then we move up to the sacral chakra and we vacuum this as well and then we spin the sacral chakra to be this bright orange and then the solar plexus to then be this beautiful yellow sunshine our heart chakra to be this beautiful emerald green gem
Our throat chakra becomes this beautiful aquamarine, light blue gem. Our third eye becomes indigo and our crown becomes this beautiful amethyst. I walk you through a beautiful meditation in the link down below, but this is the essentials if you just want to visualize it yourself. This will strengthen your intuition by way of clearing your chakra system. It is just a function of clear energy.
clear aura, clear knowing. I am so excited for you. Good luck this week. I can't wait to hear how your success goes and how you strengthen it. Let me know down below. What did you do this week? Which way did you clear and cleanse and activate one of your senses so that you could get step by step closer and closer to full integration of
all of your senses and your intuition. And hey, if you found this helpful, could you like this episode down below and leave me a comment? It makes such a huge difference. And if you really loved it and you have intuitive followers that want to grow and strengthen their intuition, please forward this message. And if you have friends who want to grow and strengthen their intuition, please post, please share this episode so that
Everyone can learn how the intuition system works and everyone can tap into this powerful divine energy. Thank you so much for spending this time with me. I'm so grateful you are here and I will see you next week. Love yourself enough to heal, heal yourself enough to thrive. Take care.
 

What is keeping you from participating in life? Episode 71

In today's podcast, we explore the vibrant energy of prom and the freedom that comes from dancing when your heart leads the way. We dive into the importance of taking charge of your happiness and not waiting for an invitation to enjoy life. Learn to ask yourself, “What’s keeping me from fully participating in life?”
 
Do you struggle with people pleasing or find yourself entangled in hook-up culture?
 
These behaviors, though seemingly opposite, might have common roots in the energy centers of our bodies. Tune in for a journey of self-discovery, joy, and the courage to dance to your soul's rhythm. Don't forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review!
 
Links: 
1-to-1 Coaching with Erin Garay 
Hook up culture chakra video

How do the 12 Universal Laws bring you peace and abundance?

Summary
Learn how to manifest the life of your dreams by exploring the 12 Universal laws and how they can bring peace and abundance into your life. Explore the interconnectedness of all things and the importance of understanding that there is purpose and reason behind every experience. Dive into the Laws of Divine Oneness, vibration, correspondence, attraction, inspired action, perpetual transmutation of energy, cause and effect, compensation, relativity, polarity, rhythm, and gender. You will feel encouraged to embrace these laws and find balance in your life.
Links
Buy your copy of Establishing Equilibrium here
Learn more about 1:1 Coaching here
Mind Body Green Article: 12 Universal Laws and How to Use Them
Stop Cutting Energetic Cords
Emotional Frequency Chart Podcast
Tree Grounding and Lung Picture 
Ho' oponopono Blessing 
 
Takeaways
Understanding the 12 universal laws can bring peace and purpose to our lives.
We are all interconnected and part of a greater energy.
Our thoughts and emotions create vibrations that attract similar frequencies.
Taking inspired action and following our intuition leads to manifestation.
Everything in life has a cause-and-effect relationship.
We reap what we sow and are compensated accordingly.
Comparisons and complaints hinder our ability to appreciate and find peace.
Life is a cycle of growth, change, and balance.
Balancing masculine and feminine energy is essential for harmony.
Keywords: universal laws, peace, purpose, interconnectedness, vibration, correspondence, attraction, inspired action, perpetual transmutation of energy, cause and effect, compensation, relativity, polarity, rhythm, gender

How can you get a handle on your feelings?

Summary
In this episode, host Erin Garay discusses how to get a handle on your feelings by shifting your perspective and focusing to the present moment. She shares personal stories and insights on the power of changing your thoughts and energy patterns. Erin introduces the concept of rumination, imagination, and the present moment as different roads where our thoughts can reside. She encourages listeners to assess where their thoughts are located and the cost of holding onto negative emotions. Erin also provides a three-step process, NAP (Name, Assess, Preach), to help handle feelings and find peace.
 
Links:
Coaching: https://www.LoveHealThrive.com/coaching
Buy your copy of Establishing Equilibrium today.
 
 
Takeaways
Shifting your perspective and focusing on the present moment can help you get a handle on your feelings.
Rumination and imagination are different roads where our thoughts can reside, but the present moment is where we should aim to be.
Assess the cost of holding onto negative emotions and consider if it's worth sacrificing your peace.
Use the NAP process (Name, Assess, Preach) to handle your feelings and find peace.
Surround yourself with people who bring you peace and strive to be a person who brings peace to others.
 
Chapters
Introduction and Overview
Shifting Your Perspective: Rumination, Imagination, and the Present Moment
Getting a Handle on Your Feelings: The NAP Process
Surrounding Yourself with Peaceful People
 
 
Keywordsfeelings, perspective, present moment, rumination, imagination, energy patterns, thoughts, emotions, peace
 

What is Grounding and Do We Even Need It?

What is grounding and do you even need it? 
Have you been losing your keys? Double-booking appointments? Feeling anxious? 
These are all symptoms of being energetically ungrounded. Join me for this week's episode as I walk you through the process of grounding and how to remedy feeling scattered by sharing personal anecdotes and insights into how grounding has transformed my own life and guidance for integrating this practice into your daily routine.
Grounding, or earthing, is the simple act of connecting with the Earth's energy to realign our minds, bodies, and spirits. I explain that grounding is the process of connecting with the earth's energy and neutralizing our energetic system. I explore both physical grounding, such as walking barefoot on the earth, and spiritual grounding, which involves bringing presence into the body through visualization and energy connection. I guide you though my daily meditation to teach you how to ground to reduce anxiety, increase presence, and maintain a balanced energetic state.
Keywords: grounding, energy, well-being, physical grounding, spiritual grounding, presence, meditation, anxiety
 
Takeaways
Grounding is the process of connecting with the earth's energy and neutralizing our energetic system.
Physical grounding involves activities like walking barefoot on the earth, hugging trees, or spending time at the beach.
Spiritual grounding is about bringing presence into the body through visualization and energy connection.
Grounding can reduce anxiety, increase presence, and maintain a balanced energetic state.
Practicing grounding regularly can have a positive impact on overall well-being and energy levels.
 
Chapters
(approx time stamps)
00:00Introduction and Overview
02:02The Importance of Grounding
06:12Physical Grounding
10:14Spiritual Grounding
22:48The Power of Grounding Practices
26:58Personal Stories and Insights
34:09Incorporating Grounding into Daily Life
36:47Conclusion and Call to Action
 
Links:
4:00- US Electric Grounding Article
5:30- GRACE Technique- https://youtu.be/02p-lzCg4V8?si=_lcj1PiERAlf2QKd
8:30- The Earthing Movie- The Earthing Movie: The Remarkable Science of Grounding (full documentary) (youtube.com)
9:30- Tibetan Buddhist Mandalas- https://youtu.be/WBrYUlOYK0U?si=YnNjwvg8gfa4lJvf
15:00- 1 to 1 Coaching with me! Coaching — Love. Heal. Thrive. TM (lovehealthrive.com)
Transcript
Erin (00:03)
 
Welcome to the Love Heal Thrive podcast where you learn to love yourself enough to heal and heal yourself enough to thrive so that you can live a life that feels whole and complete, untriggered and unaffected by the people, places and emotions that surround you.
 
I'm your host, Erin Gray. I'm a hypnotherapist, Reiki master, medium certified meditation and Enneagram coach, and simply someone who has experienced and seen energy and energy patterns her whole entire life. And it's been hard, but it doesn't have to be that way. I want to help you learn how to build an empowering life that turns your energy sensitivity into your superpower. I want you to learn how to own every room you walk into with magnetic amazing energy and experience the powerful satisfying life that comes with it. Each week I will offer you helpful tools and insight from my own journey as well as bring in amazing and experienced guests that will help you on your journey by sharing their story and insight. Together we will learn how to love ourselves enough to heal and heal ourselves enough to thrive. I'm so happy you're here. Let's get started.
 
I am so happy you are here. Happy Monday. I if you were listening on Mondays when I originally dropped, I hope so. I hope you are here and starting your week off with me. If not, come and join us on Mondays. But today we are talking about one of the most important topics, I think. Although maybe I think every week is important, but today we are talking about the importance of grounding. And we're going to talk about what is grounding and if we even need it. And I think this, if we even need it, might become a series for me because I did the energy screen, what is an energy screen and do we even need it? And now it is what is grounding and do we even need it? So we'll see what follows with the do we even need it series, but I am liking that. Anyway, today though, we are diving into energetic grounding and what that means, what that looks like, what it looks like when we're not grounded and how to ground. So have you been losing your keys? Have you been double booking your appointments? Have you been forgetting what you're saying mid -sentence? Do you walk into a room scattered? Hot mess, hot mess, whirlwind.
 
This is what it looks like when our energy is ungrounded.
 
And I was thinking about that as I was thinking about putting together this episode. What does actual physical electricity look like when it's ungrounded? And I thought to myself, wow, electrical cords would look frazzled at the end, possibly one of many things that could happen, but it would look frazzled at the end of the cord.
 
And I would say that that's how we look when we are ungrounded as well. We look scattered, we look frazzled so we can have that image in our mind of what ungroundedness looks like. It looks like that end of the frayed electrical cord when your phone cord has been used too many times and it has now come apart. That frazzled look. However, when we are grounded,
 
We are connected, protected and safe, much like we are when we are energetically grounded within our home. So I decided to look up on US electric .com about ungrounded outlets. And I thought this was so fascinating because I think what we can say to the outlets, we can also say to ourselves when we are ungrounded. Ungrounded outlets. And I'll include this link down below if you want to get your electricity insight on. Ungrounded outlets will be unable to compensate for electricity overloads and cannot send current to the ground safely. What? Look at that in terms of when we have too much energy or emotion coming at us, we are not able to compensate for someone else's overload of energy or emotion and we don't know how to get rid of it safely.
 
So then we react or we blow up or we become depressed or exhausted. None of which help us attract the highest vibe life possible. Next. So the current will search for another way to find grounding by taking the shortest, easiest route possible, which could be through your hand at the plug, giving you an electric shock or through frazzled wiring or causing a fire.
 
But I thought that this was very interesting. It has to take the shortest and easiest route possible. So that looks like the energetic emotional explosion, or it looks like the distancing or the cutting off, all of which are low vibe. However, when we walk through life, energetically and spiritually grounded, we can remain connected. We can remain present with our own emotions as well as other people's emotions and know how to safely distribute that emotion and that energy by using the grace technique, which I'll include a link down below. But we have talked about grounding our energy, retracting our aura, attaching to the center of the earth covering with our energetic screen of choice and then emptying that bowl, allowing, not allowing someone else's content to affect us. We grace ourselves. But the first that G in grace is ground. We always begin by grounding. And when we walk through our life grounded and connected to the divine, we are present and we can safely manage emotional and energetic overloads by our surroundings. We are no longer triggered by the people around us.
 
We live in a world that ungrounds us every moment of every day. There is so much toxic news, toxic commercials, toxic people around us. And if you're finding that, think about your own toxic thoughts or emotions because like attracts like and what we pay attention to, we draw in.
So do you need to take a moment and not pay as close of attention to all those things?
But as a society, our children and ourselves, we are spending more time inside. Children are not playing in the dirt as much. They're not climbing trees as much. We're not playing in the dirt or climbing trees as much.
 
This is a physical way for our bodies to be grounded.
 
scientifically grounding is the exchange of electrons between the earth and our body. The sun releases electrons into the ionosphere, a layer of the atmosphere approximately 50 to 400 miles away. The sun's rays are so powerful that they split the molecules into a negative charge and a positive charge. The positive charge remains in the ionosphere while the negative charge
 
collects and then ultimately leaves the ionosphere and hits the earth and disperses that negative energy onto the earth's surface through lightning. Then the super magical thing happens. Those free electrons are absorbed into the body when we walk around on the earth and it neutralizes the free radicals in the body when we stand on the earth, when we...
 
play in the dirt, when we climb trees, when we sit up against a tree, when we hug a tree, when we walk along the beach, when we immerse ourselves in nature, this automatically happens and it can happen instantaneously.
 
the free radicals that have built up in the body pair with these negative electrons and allow your ultimate state to be neutralized and balanced.
 
This lowers the inflammation within the body. It improves your sleep and it shifts your autonomic nervous system from sympathetic to parasympathetic dominance.
 
There is an incredible movie. I'll include a link down below. It's free. Bye.
 
called the Earthing Movie that details this process and shares perspectives from all of the industry's experts, including Clint Ober, who was the pioneer of this movement.
 
But how much time are you spending outside? How much time are your kids spending outside? Can you just sit out and enjoy your morning coffee with your feet on the ground? You know, when I was a little girl next to our house on the side of the house, there were these little cement rounds. Very 1970s. The little pebbles, right? That had like little.
 
circles with the little cemented pebbles inside of them. But I every day would make pizza pies with my little pizza pie station. So I would collect rocks and leaves and grass that was my cheese and appropriate rocks that were the perfect round size to be my pepperoni. And all of nature I would gather to be my ingredients to create these pizza pies every single day.
 
I made lots of different designs and then ultimately it would teach me non -attachment because each one of my ingredients would be either scooped up by birds throughout the night or the wind would blow it away. So by morning all of my pizza pies had disappeared.
 
Have you ever seen those beautiful sand mandalas? I'll include a link down below to one that they are created by the Tibetan Buddhist monks and they create these beautiful, intricate sand masterpieces that are so detailed, so beautiful on their own pizza pie, on their own cement, maybe they're wood or cement, but it is these incredible.
 
incredibly intricate sand masterpieces. And then when it is complete, they ceremoniously dismantle them to depict and symbolize our impermanence here and that we can practice non -attachment to, we can create beautiful things, but they don't need to stay that we ourselves grow and change because we have created.
 
that masterpiece, not because that masterpiece has to stick around or stay, but we ourselves have changed because of it. What in your life have you changed exponentially because you created, but maybe exists, maybe doesn't. But when we cling to it's non -existence that can lower our energetic vibration, when we recognize that we ourselves have grown and changed.
 
we can know it has served its purpose in the sole fact that you have shifted and changed non -attachment. And we'll probably come back to that on another podcast episode. But today we are diving into grounding as I took my pause on the beautiful Tibetan monk, Tibetan Buddhist monk sand masterpiece. Okay. So back to free radicals.
 
Back to neutralizing the body, back to the earthy movie. Have you ever noticed how relaxed you are after spending a day at the beach? You're calm and peaceful. This is because you are so grounded. You are energetically grounded physically. Your body physically does this without you even trying. That is how beautiful and amazing nature is. We, we actually had a hail storm this past week.
 
And I went out and caught some hail just to eat it. And I was so amazed. Every single one of those pieces of hail were these perfect spheres. It was incredible to me. And I just was in true awe of just how incredible nature is. And this is just one more way that nature is so incredible. When we work in conjunction with nature and mama earth.
 
She wants to neutralize your free radicals. She wants to reduce your inflammation. She wants to make you grounded, present, and healthy. You can do this through grounding.
 
So we can use this technique energetically and spiritually. So we can physically ground by walking through mud, putting our feet on the grass, leaning up against a tree, hugging a tree, spending time at the beach, allowing the physical earth to actually touch our body. But we can also do this spiritually. And it has a...
 
a very similar energetic effect. In fact,
 
I came to know this. I came to know that I didn't need ground to ground in the most frightening way. Actually. We were in Hawaii and my daughters were out snorkeling and they're like, Oh, there's a turtle. There's a turtle. So I grabbed my snorkel and I ran through the water, jumped out, swam out just so I could see the turtles are last day of vacation. And.
 
I hadn't seen the turtle yet and I really wanted to see him. But when I got out there...
 
I had realized that there was a hole in my snorkel and I couldn't breathe and I panicked and I was hundreds of feet away from.
 
shoreline and I panicked and my, my daughter said to me, mama, why you look like you have ants in your pants? And so I waved to my husband who grabbed the boogie board and headed his way out to me.
 
And I have trained my mindset so much so that here I was.
 
100 feet from the bottom of the ocean.
 
floating in the water and I grounded my energy. And in that moment, my panic stopped. My anxiety stopped. I certainly got out of the water as soon as my husband got to me with the boogie board, but I didn't.
 
but I didn't drown. I didn't even go underwater. I calmed myself immediately in that moment by grounding my energy, by not even touching the water, by not even touching the ground.
 
I mean, a case could be made possibly that there was sea water and there's sea and sand in the water. So that could ultimately be a little more grounding as well.
 
but my feet were not on the ground. So here is the message, but I do this in airplanes too. And certainly I am so far from the ground in that moment too. I want you to begin to incorporate this energetic grounding into your life every single day and watch how much your anxiety decreases. Watch how much more present you are in your life.
 
So we can probably agree that we need physical grounding based off of all of this. As we reflect on our question before we move on, what is grounding and do we even need it?
 
but we can understand grounding as a means to neutralize our energetic system and bring presence into the body.
 
And do we even need it? That is for you to determine and discern for yourself as we move through the episode.
 
We will dive more into spiritual grounding in just a moment, right after that turtle. Now that we've shared that turtle story, we will come back to spiritual grounding in just a moment, right after this message.
 
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What is grounding and do we even need it? Part two, we have covered physical grounding. Now let's move on to spiritual grounding. Spiritual grounding is bringing presence into the body. It is energetically drawing mama earth's energy up through visualization and subtle body energy connection.
 
It is at the core of mindfulness and allows us to be present with ourselves first.
 
This is such a revealing grounding story on the importance of grounding and why we need to do this. So it was about 10 years ago and I had just started my speaking career and a friend of mine connected me to the head person at her company that I really wanted to speak at. So I was super excited and we had a great first conversation and he said, great, awesome. We have an author coming on Wednesday.
 
Why don't you come and watch the speaker and then we can meet for lunch afterwards. It'll be amazing. I said, great. That sounds awesome. Let me write down the title of the book so I can get it and read it. And I wrote it down on Thursday on my calendar. So I went through my days. I went through reading and cramming this book, which if you've been listening, you know, I'm an audible girl, but this was.
 
predated when audible was a really big thing and so I had to actually read with my eyeballs really fast I read through the whole entire book I was all prepared Thursday morning and sent an email to confirm Thursday morning And if you're listening closely to my story you will have heard When was that actual meeting? Yep So the meeting had been on Wednesday, but I had written it down on my calendar on Thursday and so
 
Thursday morning, I sent an email so excited. I've read the book. I can't wait to meet with you. And he wrote back and said, you were a no show. He wrote back and said, I wondered why you were a no show.
 
No show. If you know me, I am so full of integrity and being there for people and to be called a no show was just gutting to me. And I was, I was actually a no show, but it was more because at that point in time, my energy was completely ungrounded. I was so excited. I had so much energy. I could not handle the emotional and energetic outpouring from the outside because my insides were not grounded just like we discussed at the beginning.
 
My ungrounded system was unable to compensate for the emotional and electrical overload that I received by being invited into this dream meeting because I was ungrounded.
 
So he was so kind and so nice to still meet with me and we got to have a wonderful conversation and connect. But it was in that moment that I realized how important it was. And I was teaching this. I was teaching this at the time. However, we're going to cover off on a few things of what I do differently now that has.
 
upleveled my grounding practice compared to what it was before. So often you will hear teachers talk about grounding from the feet. You ground your energy and this does make a difference. This does shift your energy and it helps connect you to the earth, into the center of the earth. However, what I have found through
 
my love affair with the chakra system is that our root chakra located within our pelvic floor, their perineum. Here, this energy is the energy that grounds us. This is the energy that brings presence into our life. And in fact, as you will hear in a couple episodes, our organ of action of the
 
As you will find out, as you will learn in a few episodes, as we dive into our organs of action, the feet are actually connected to the solar plexus, to our ego, as opposed to our root chakra that grounds us and brings us into our physical body. So bringing attention first to the pelvic floor, the base of our spine, our perineum.
 
And then drawing energy from there down into the center of the earth allows your energetic body to become so powerfully grounded and connected. I once had a client who came in so frazzled. Her electrical cords were so frazzled and just all over the place. And I, I then asked, I said, well, are you...
 
following your grounding practice? Cause I saw her regularly. And so she knew to practice her grounding. And she said, yes, every single morning I'm grounding. And I had just the intuitive hit to ask, where are you grounding from? And she said, from my feet, of course. And so then I taught her about grounding from her pelvic floor instead, and drawing that route down into the center of the earth. And I am telling you, you cannot make this up.
 
She came back the next month and her energy was so grounded, so present, so calm, so unfrazzled. It was incredible. It was absolutely incredible. So if you have a moment, I invite you to join me in this quick visualization. If you're driving or doing something unsafe, please don't do this. Come back, hit pause and come back. But if you were able to take...
 
a few quick minutes with me, I invite you to close your eyes, bringing your attention down to your pelvic floor, the base of your spine, your perineum. And when I say that, I mean the inner, inner deepest, most inner part of the cavity of your body. Bringing your attention down to your pelvic floor, the base of your spine, your perineum.
 
Just allowing your focus to focus here in this space.
 
inviting any thoughts that might be lingering around to float down to your pelvic floor at the base of your spine, your perineum like glitter or snow in a snow globe down into this space.
 
You can remain here for as long as you like gathering and collecting those thoughts. When you're ready, you can see this beautiful tree root push down through the crust of the earth, the mantle of the earth, the outer core, the inner core, 90 % of the way to the center of the earth.
 
And then I invite mama earth to meet that cord. The other 10 % when she is ready, she will intertwine with that cord and draw your cord all the way down into the center of the earth, connecting in pulling taught. And we give mama earth so much gratitude. Thank you mama earth for the sun and the moon and the stars and for taking what no longer serves us and grounding us and bringing us.
 
presence into our life. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. So grateful.
 
And you can remain here for as long as you like. When you're ready, you can then draw that beautiful earth energy up that root filling in your pelvic floor, the base of your spine, your perineum.
 
inviting this beautiful earth energy to nourish and fill in this pelvic floor until you create a little soil of garden, a garden soil here in this space, creating this beautiful garden with soil three inches high here in this space, not too heavy and not too light. You decide for you what feels right, but enough earth energy here that it feels a little weighted, but not too much.
 
allowing that beautiful mineral rich, water rich soil to just nourish your pelvic floor, the base of your spine, your perineum. And then we thank Mama Earth for this grounding. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
 
And you'll be able to return to the space at any time. And when you're ready, you can begin to rub your fingers, coming back to the space, rubbing whatever might have fallen asleep, taking a great big deep breath and stretching, coming back awake alert and refreshed back to this moment now.
 
You can do this in one second. I know I talked to you through this in multiple minutes, but you can do this in one quick second. That allows you to become grounded, connected. If you are snorkeling in the ocean and you need a quick ground, you can do this anywhere. I do it in the airplane. I do it whenever I feel anxious, nervous. This is how I begin my day. This is how I end my day. I do this before every meditation. I cannot encourage you enough.
 
to incorporate this into your life as your grounding practice. This will change the world. This will change your world by offering this powerful, satisfying way to create presence in your life so that
 
you are able to compensate for the electrical and emotional overloads that surround you so that you can offload that energy safely and with presence, kindness, and love.
 
How can you incorporate grounding into your life? Can you find a moment to ground physically? Can you find a moment to ground spiritually?
 
And can you decide what grounding feels like and if you even need it? I can't wait to hear in the comments down below. Do you need this? I would love to hear what your thoughts were on this meditation and how you are going to ground this week. I want to hold you accountable. Are you going to go walk on the beach? Are you going to go walking apart? Are you just going to go?
 
sit in the grass out front or lean up against your favorite tree. How can you ground this week? Let me know down below in the comments. Good luck this week. I hope you experiment with your grounding techniques and decide what works best for you. I challenge you just simply don't put your head down on the pillow. If you were deciding to ground before you go to sleep, simply just don't put your head down on the pillow.
 
Thank you so much for spending this time with me and sharing this practice with me. Everyone can benefit from this. So thank you so much for sharing and liking and subscribing. And Hey, before you go, can you hit the like button and add a quick comment? Tell me where are you going to ground this week? And if you really love this, thank you for sharing on social media and tagging me. It makes such a huge difference in spreading the healing and making this world.
 
a better place. Thank you so much. I will see you next week. Love yourself enough to heal, heal yourself enough to thrive. Take care.
 

How are your thoughts showing up in your body? Episode #67

How are your thoughts showing up in your body? Episode #67
 
Hi Thriver!  Here is my PSA! Mercury Retrograde started today and this is no April Fool's Joke!  Mercury Retrograde is from April 1- April 24.  Give yourself extra time to travel and manage electronics.  As such, my editing is a bit off in this episode but plan for it to be re-reviewed by next week. (The beauty of Mercury Retrograde) This episode is all heart as it is about the core of my book.  Enjoy! 
How are your thoughts showing up in your body?
Dive into the intriguing correlation between your thoughts and physical sensations in this latest podcast episode as we dive into the major them from my book, Establishing Equilibrium.
“Thoughts trigger emotions. Emotions move energy. Energy manifests physically.” ~Erin Garay
Explore how the mind-body connection influences your well-being and discover practical strategies for optimizing this system and establishing emotional equanimity within your life. Join me as we uncover the profound impact of mindfulness on your body, and learn how to leverage it for a healthier, happier life. Tune in now and start aligning your thoughts with your body for ultimate mind-body connection.
In this episode, Erin shares a personal story about getting triggered despite her teachings on being untriggerable. She introduces the main theme of her book, Establishing Equilibrium, which is about how thoughts trigger emotions, emotions move energy, and energy manifests physically. Erin explains the importance of reframing thoughts and controlling thoughts to maintain emotional equanimity. She also discusses how emotions affect energetic frequencies and how they can manifest physically in the body. Erin encourages listeners to listen to their bodies and shift their thoughts to promote healing and well-being.
Takeaways
Thoughts trigger emotions, so it's important to reframe and control our thoughts to maintain emotional equanimity.
Emotions move energy and can affect our energetic frequencies.
Energy manifests physically in the body, and physical manifestations can be a result of emotional and energetic imbalances.
Listening to our bodies and shifting our thoughts can promote healing and well-being.
Links
How to Become Untriggerable: How to become Untriggerable- Episode #66 | The Love.Heal.Thrive. Podcast (podbean.com)
Emotional Scale: The Energetics of Gratitude and the Map of Consciousness- How to manifest the life of your dreams | The Love.Heal.Thrive. Podcast (podbean.com)
Very Well Article
Establishing Equilibrium
 
 
Chapters
00:00Introduction and Personal Story
04:00Introduction to the Main Theme
05:11How Thoughts Trigger Emotions
06:04Reframing Thoughts and Controlling Thoughts
09:17Trusting the World and Maintaining Emotional Equanimity
11:25Emotions Move Energy
12:52Energy Manifests Physically
25:29Emotions and Energetic Frequencies
28:16Energy Manifests Physically
37:01TCM Clock and Physical Manifestations
47:13Listening to Your Body and Shifting Thoughts
48:03Conclusion and Call to Action
 
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